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Dear readers: Be careful who you are in a relationship with..

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At a very young age people used to call me "the richest student". I am very industrious and before I clocked 20 years, I was a millionaire and could afford most things that my mates couldn't afford. Fast forward to a couple of years, I graduated from university and starting working in the financial sector and also a business on the side which was another source of income. I became involved with a guy in 2013 and boy.... he was a stunner and I fell hopelessly in love with him. However, all of a sudden I realized that I was always broke, my accounts were in reds. 
 
In fact I took a loan for my business and everything was just upside down. I had a good job and a lucrative business but I just couldn't find the money. I was always broke and asking my siblings for money, nobody could understand what was going on neither did they believe I was broke. 
 
I BECAME A RICH BROKE ASS, i would beg my sister to send money to me for lunch, i cried one day when i couldnt use the P.O.S to pay for my food as i cant withdraw less than 1k using the ATM, my friends didn't understand why i couldn't pay for their aso-ebi or follow them on trips abroad. 
 
However, i realized that every time my guy and i took a break, business becomes lucrative and i had money but when we get back together then i became broke again, at first i thought this was my imagination but it happened so often that i decided we should break up. Sweetheart, we have broken up for few weeks now and you wont believe how much i have been smiling financially, it feels like magic, you wont believe the things that have happened in these few weeks. 
 
Guyz/Ladies, please review the people you are dating and see if your life has been better or worst since you started dating them, all of you that think you are dating humans not knowing that you have been dating antelopes. LOLZ I found out that my ex was a dog and maybe through his numerous escapades he might have inflicted this upon himself because even his finances is a story for another day

Dear readers: Be careful who you are in a relationship with..

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A piece of advice to all ladies

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Hey you! yes you. You've lost your virginity to a guy for reasons best known to you. Now the guy has left you. (you cry for some time and stopped). You met another guy and the guy requested for sex, you still went ahead to give him. He later dumped you. 
 
And it goes on like that. Each guy you meet you keep allowing him to sleep with you. My question to you is: How many guys are going to sleep with you before you get married? Your husband that is supposed to meet the thing chacha (brand new) will now meet esha (yoruba name for rotten). 
For those who are still virgins, I give you two thumps up! If any guy comes around demanding for sex and you tell him to wait till you guys get married and he says no he cant wait, please let him go. 
 
After all God is not in support of sex before marriage, so he will provide a good man. That also goes to those who have lost their virginity. You've made that mistake once and let that be once and for all. Ladies......please wake up and wise up! 
 
Please, for the sake of spirituality and morality please.

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My mother is paranoid about me getting married to a man who has four sisters who are divorced, single mothers and financially dependent on him. One currently lives in his house with her daughter. The others don't live with him but they are all on monthly allowance. 
 
He is also taking care of all their children. And it's not like he's Dangote. If his phone rings 10 times, 8 times will be from his sisters. Though they are not hostile towards me yet, I hate the fact that they rely on him for everything. 
 
What happens when we start having children? And I hate how he worries and focuses on them so much. They are all adults, two of them in their late 30s. My mum thinks his sisters will pose a great threat to our marriage once my fiance's finances start to focus on me and our children. 
 
My fiance has however assured me that there will be no problem and he will handle all our affairs well. What am I about to get into? I'm apprehensive

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I've been dating this guy for a year and half now, and we've been good from the start but recently he's been acting weird. Anytime I talk on the phone with someone, he asks me who called and if it's someone he doesn't know, he calls the person back. I've lost a lot of friends because of him. He has also asked me to stop talking to them with the excuses they will corrupt me or they are potential threats ..I don't know what to do! I need help.

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I am married to a man who constantly compares me with his ex girlfriend to my face!! Each time there is a little misunderstanding he constantly reminds me of how well his ex-girlfriend understood him and treats him. 
 
What does this mean and how do I deal with this? I am confused!! I have told him severally how well I hated it and he doesn't see a big deal in it, he doesn't even care how I feel about it. How do I get him to stop it?

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Ladies: 10 Men You Shouldn't Even Bother Dating

People aren’t always who they appear to be. After dating a guy for a little while or after getting to know a man for a few weeks, you may realize that he isn’t exactly what you thought or expected him to be. And in the dating pool, there are definitely some men that you want to avoid dating at all costs, here are 10 of them. 
 
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THE PLAYER 
 
No woman really wants to date a player, but for some reason a lot of females are attracted to them. Newsflash: a player has and wants no future with you. As the name entails, he’s doing nothing but playing you, wasting your time, and letting you go whenever he’s found a new lady to mess with. Players only want side pieces, and we’re all worth a lot more than that. 
 
THE JOBLESS MAN 
 
A man without a job should have no use to you. A man who is jobless obviously lacks a lot of ambition, skill, or maybe both. Unless you find that he has a good excuse, i.e. he just got laid off and he’s looking consistently for a new job, you’ll want to stay away from guys with no income. Unemployment doesn’t count and in the end he may try to reel you in and have you pay his bills. 
 
THE EXTREMELY INSECURE MAN 
 
We all have our insecurities and often times we work towards them to help eliminate them altogether. Dating a man with a lot of insecurities is extremely time consuming and in the end, it can be really tough. You have to deal with a lot of jealousy, insecurity, trust issues, and so on. A relationship with an insecure man is bound to be a chore. 
 
THE WANNABE KING 
 
Ahh, a king without his crown. You may one day run into a guy who expects to be treated like royalty. He wants you to cook, clean, and do his laundry for him. All the while he isn’t helping one bit. A guy with such high expectations isn’t likely to be one who treats you right. You deserve to be treated like a queen, or at least like a princess, not the other way around. 
 
THE DAD TO TOO MANY 
 
When a guy is 25 with three children by three different women, you better have a huge red flag going off in your head. Men with a lot of kids by various different women usually aren’t worth dating. Chances have it that you’ll get caught up in the already existing baby mama drama, and we all know how that turns out. Avoid the guy with several baby mamas, you’ll thank yourself later. 
 
THE NARCISSIST (SELF CENTERED) 
 
Dating a narcissist is never wise. There’s nothing worse than a man who is completely self-centered and unconcerned about anyone but himself. Though narcissists are likely to look nice and dress nice, they’re only worried about themselves. His care for you is more than likely non-existent. 
 
THE ONE-NIGHT-STANDER 
 
One night stands can have their perks, especially if you’re in needy mode. But, dating a guy who wants nothing but bedroom time with you is a mere waste of time. What good is a man if he only wants to get you in bed and then find his way out of it as quickly as possible? If he’s having one-night stands with you, he’s more than likely doing it with others. 
 
THE HEAVY DRINKER 
 
There’s nothing wrong with drinking, especially when you know your limits. However, dating a guy who loves to drink and drinks almost every night will only smells like trouble..and liquor.  A man who lives to drink and drinks to live will be costly in the end. What’s the fun in getting drunk every weekend? Guys tend to act like fools when they’re drunk anyway! 
 
THE OVERLY EMOTIONAL MAN 
 
A man who readily expresses and shows his emotions is rare to find, but an overly emotional man isn’t such a great pick. Men who are overly emotional tend to go the extreme with lots of crying and a lot of anger. Usually this men will tick at the drop of a pin. A man who has no control over his emotions isn’t usually a good guy to date. 
 
THE OVERLY-CONTROLLING MAN 
 
He expects you to abide by his rules, and what he says goes. He doesn’t want you to have a lot of male friends. After your first date he urges you to delete your dating profile and change your Facebook status. These are all signs of a man who is very controlling. This type of guy will only lead to a lot of trouble.

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I’m in my early 20s and in love with a 28-year-old man. He has a good job and he is quite nice to me. I always feel that any girl who is not a virgin should not marry him. We have been together for a year and he has promised to marry me but he doesn't know about my past deeds. 
 
I have this innocent and youthful look and he would never know that so far, I've dated 12 guys and I've had seven abortions. He has planned our marriage for October and I feel guilty for not telling him what I had done. I feel that if I tell him, he could change his mind and break up with me. I don’t think I can get another man like him. 
 
What do I do? Tell him and lose him? Or keep quiet and get married?

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My fiancé has slept with all of my friends, what should I do?

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I’m engaged to a man who has dated at least six of my friends. I've lived abroad since I was 16 and only returned to Kenya last year. Apparently he’s one of hottest bachelors in Nairobi and has been around and slept with a lot of these women. 
 
It was after we got engaged that I ongoing to find out about all his escapes with these ladies. Some of them even made sure to tell me about their past tries with him… 
 
I’m worried that the man I am about to marry has slept with a lot of my friends. I don’t know how to handle it or handle the girls. Anytime we are all together, it’s always awkward or the girls act too familiar with him. It leaves me very uncomfortable. 
 
I am certainly going ahead with the wedding, but I just don’t know how to handle the situation. 
What should I do?

My fiancé has slept with all of my friends, what should I do?

I’m engaged to a man who has dated at least six of my friends. I've lived abroad since I was 16 and only returned to Kenya last year....

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